For Kansas City couples going through a divorce, one of the trickiest questions is whether or not to move out of the shared house. Divorce is already extremely stressful, and moving out can multiply that stress.
Whether to move out
When a couple lives together and then divorces, the situation at home can become very tense and difficult to manage. The presence of one or more children can add to the complexity considerably. It is no surprise that the first instinct of many partners is to move out of the house or apartment as soon as possible. However, that can actually make things even more difficult and stressful. Psychologists rank the stress impact of various life events, and moving to a new residence is one of the most stressful events a person can experience.
Combining two extremely stressful events can make both of them harder, and also affect a person’s decision-making. Divorce is hard enough as it is, but when dealing with another stressful event, it becomes easy to make mistakes like overlooking the other spouse’s assets or agreeing to a disfavorable custody agreement. The same goes for the move, as well– divorce adds pressure and stress that can lead to choosing a poor place to move to or other issues.
While emotionally it can be very appealing to want to move out as soon as possible, from a financial and logistical perspective, this is a highly risky moment at a time when mistakes can be very costly. The ongoing stress of both of these events at the same tie is also toxic and unhealthy to experience for the family.